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Friday, November 26, 2004

love is?

What is love to you?

People often say that love hurts, but isn't love supposed to be that great feeling where u feel that nothing is wrong and everything is right and going your way? So if you really are hurting, is it still love then?

To love someone is to feel as if the world revolves around the two of you and nothing matters more to you than your loved one. But this is kind of an immature and naive thinking. It may be so to some people but sooner or later, they realise that the perfect world of a twosome is impossible; not in this time and age where the world is a global village.

Nowadays, love is when two people can tolerate each other's bad habits and can live together under one roof. "I love him because he can tolerate me and I can tolerate him; we can tolerate living with each other and starting a family together."

Tolerance. I think that's the key to a successful relationship of this generation. We've all lost the ability to love someone for who he/she is and forget about all their bad habits. What we do now is to know of our love's good habits, yet be bothered by the bad habits, but will willingly tolerate them for the sake of our love for them. We take their goodness for granted and demand them to change for the better still. We always say that they shouldn't do this, they are so-and-so, i can't stand this and that. But have we ever stopped to think what our loved ones may be thinking? Aren't they thinking of the exact same thing about us? We judge them for who they are, but they do so too. We can only see the bad in others; why can't we see the bad in ourselves and improve? That's because we are all narcisistic bastards and bitches. We think we are always perfect and wonderful. I admit that that's what I am. I always think that I'm good, better than others. But in reality, I'm far worse than them and the worst thing is that I'm not even aware of that.

I deceive myself. An over-confident person is no better than someone who lacks confidence.

(this is not negativity, this is called an entry of self-reflection. or in other words, my blabberings of non-important issues. hardy-har-har...)


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